OK, one after another. It´s not important how big your organ is, this method – originated in the tantric teachings – is suitable for everyone, for “small figurines” too. And the same is valid for women. Most of men think that only a rough action will satisfy their partner. But ladies know better. It´s not a typical woman´s dream to experience sex like in a typical movie scene. It´s script is always the same: the first sexual contact of main characters usually contains blouse ripping, pinning woman against the wall, passionate kissing of her cheeks and jaw… all in 5 seconds. Then she is bend over the table or thrown on the floor. As a highlight, he makes few frantic thrusts, and both happily roll aside. Satisfied, of course… In fact, in such a short time, she is not able even to get wet, much less to reach climax. If you see this in the movie, you can be sure that the director is male.

Method of soft penetration is also suitable as the therapy of various sexual dysfunctions. For men, it can be problems with erection or premature ejaculation. For women, this method can help with increasing the sensitivity of their genitalia as so-called frigidity may not be congenital, but caused for example by experienced trauma. Problems like this have two things in common: first of them is time, more precisely it´s shortage. It´s true, we do not have enough time, even for sex. You´ve been there too, right? „“I´m so tired from work honey.“ „It´s been really hard day with children.“ or „Let´s make it quick, I need to catch that show in TV“ etc. We are not able to focus RIGHT NOW. There is still something else, something more important. And if you add another factor – stress – the problem is born. Problems like this can have origin in our psyche. For full and intense enjoyment of sex, it is needed to be in strong connection with every part of the body. Do not think of emails or full laundry basket. If you are not here just because of experimenting but problems mentioned above are reality for you, several options are on the table. At first, you can do nothing and make the problem much worse or spend weeks and months on the sofa in your therapist´s office, or to try something new.

So, what´s this method of soft penetration all about? It´s about insertion of penis to vagina without its erection. Yes, we can hear your protests – It´s not possible! Nobody has ever heard of it! But it was heard and tried by dozens and hundreds of pairs (maybe even threesomes), who decided to work on their relationships and to try new tantric techniques. In case there is an objection that tantra is all about se – yes and no. For tantra followers, sexuality is sacred, but within the general conception of life. Nevertheless, sex = life. You will probably agree, without sex, we would not exist, right?

Tantrism (or tantra) was born in India, more than 15 centuries ago. But to us, it has arrived just recently, during last century. It´s not only about sexual rituals, above all, tantra works with meditation and targets problems in communication caused by everyday, long-standing life together. Tantra refuses dogmas and its ultimate goal is to achieve real wake-up, both mental and physical.

1. Romance

Get ready and prepare romantic evening/morning/midday, as you wish. It means you have to reserve few hours of your time. Two hours are absolute minimum. Switch off phones, lower lights, light candles, fill up your bath, set off calm, romantic music (be sure that it won´t stop in the middle of the „process“), prepare good food, some drinks (but alcohol is not recommended) etc. Also, there should not be cold in the room.

2. Undressing

Undress yourself and your partner. It can be arranged for example as a short striptease.

3. Stroking phase

It´s not about mindless or seductive stroking, it´s about relaxation, loosening touches. It´s important to have warm hands. If they are cold, it´s enough to rub hand against hand for a while. Do not use massage oils, with them, touches are too intensive and will lead to erotic hype which is too strong. And it´s not our goal. Now, we are getting to the most important point: DO NOT TOUCH THE MOST SENSITIVE AREAS. The most sensitive is not always the same as penis, nipples or clitoris. For some people, earlobes, butt or scruff are as sensitive as more typical areas. Shortly, erogenous zones are taboo at this phase. Stroke other areas as softly as we can, at least 30 minutes. Neither 10 nor 15, 30 at least. Switch your brain to the mode „I´m doing this for myself, not because of any „method of operation“. It should be time full of love, you can stop, allow yourself a luxury of feeling the sensation of „now and here“. It´s better not to talk, just maneuver your partner out of excessive excitement.

4. Final penetration

Finally – the penetration itself. If stroking causes an erection of man´s penis, stop until the erection disappear. But do not think on taxes, it´s too far. Rather than that, try to remember some nice and tender common moments. Four times breathing in, four times breathing out, have a bite of something tasty etc. When all is calm again, start with so-called spooning – cuddling of two spoons. Man lays behind woman, both are on their sides. Woman opens her legs apart a little bit (ben done leg or puts a pillow between her knees) giving her partner access to her vagina. Then he takes soft penis to his hand and gently puts its end to the vagina as deep as possible. Carefully, with focus on penis staying in vagina, both nestle down in the spooning position. Now comes the hardest part of the whole process – do nothing, just breathing and waiting. Longer is better. Don´t forget that you are doing this for yourself.

During the waiting, man can try to insert penis deeper into vagina – slowly, with his hand. But what are you waiting for? For the full erection of the penis! After that, it´s usually impossible to wait a second longer, so let´s do it! But slowly, do not try to roleplay the Duracell rabbit or a dog meeting bitch on heat. Rather than that, enjoy every second of it, feel every centimetre of the insertion, after all – he deserves it!

Usually, woman is so aroused even before the first movement, that often she is not able to say when an orgasm came. It´s not about ten to fifteen seconds, including the onset, but completely new type of extasy felt from the first moment to partners climax, sometimes even after that. There is no particular goal, it´s not necessary to last 45 minutes, or 30… The method is given, just do everything that should be done and then you should say YES, WE´VE DONE IT!

Life is a challenge. When doing this again, try to prolong the time in the spooning position as much as you can. Experts of this method can reach orgasms without any movement. They say, they don´t need them. Well, try it…

The feelings of embarrassment encouraged for centuries are some of the greatest obstacles which most of us must deal with while we try to embrace and grasp our sexuality. Our culture, which characterizes itself by virtue and embarrassment and in which the bloody murder on a TV screen is much better accepted than the scene of love, is not the best fertile ground for open acceptance of this vital power which dozes inside us but can burst into a beautiful flower. On the contrary, the feeling of shame is often fostered by family and society as a whole. Through this feeling of guilt, we unintentionally refuse our own sacred aspects and suppress those deep into the subconscious mind. They always say that sexual dreams and desires are „bad“…

Some people rather choose to deny their own sexuality, describing it as bare instinct, lower-level vibration and say that they try to get over it, suppress their own sexuality. But the completeness and harmony are not possible without it. Sexuality does not define the man, but it is his (or her) inherent part. If you deny it, you block energies of your body, holding your spirit incomplete, fragmented and unhappy.

Through the orgasm, we can see the infinity of ourselves, let us taste the expansion of our soul. Sometimes for the very first time in our lives. Despite the fact that it is just a quick excursion, it is really worth to enjoy it on your way to your heart. Because orgasm is neither the beginning nor the end.

Sex is one of the very powerful tools of transcendental development. Sex with a spiritual overlap is, in fact, the fastest and easiest way to touch the mystical experience. Any kind of ecstatic experience, the sex included, is the perfect starting point for the cultivation of one´s spiritual abilities and their natural connection to our everyday life.

During the „right“ sex, we are vulnerable, open to intimacy. Not only to your partner but the universe. This experience is not deliberate, objectively understandable. „Divine“ state of mind can be felt very briefly even during the self-indulgent sex, in which there is no soul connection. We can be addicted to it and permanently look for new partners as the sex is always more interesting for the „first“ time. The real intensity, however, is connected to the deepness and it is needed to be worked on. The journey itself is the real goal.

There is a beautiful term in Sanskrit – Maithuna. It means something like „sexual connection“ in a ritual context. It belongs to basic tantric rituals and it is the synonym of so-called Nishpatti – maturity, and purification. Maithuna uses the deliberate sexual intensity as a ladder, thanks to which we can ascend higher, to even more intensive experiences.

Sexual desire takes its power from our body and emotions, itself it is not strong enough to raise us to another level of deliberate being. It´s the tantric sex, which gives us the chance to experience the real connection of bodies and souls (at certain conditions, it can be embodied). We can define this kind of sex as an infinite and pure blessedness, harmony, unification of identities and complete loss of the ego – especially during the climax.

Live in celibacy as long as possible. By this, you will maximize your sexual energy and better learn how to give it a direction. Maybe, in the right time, you will even feel tingling in the lower part of your back – the kundalini energy, which helps to feel the Unity.

Create the settings in which you will feel relaxed and in which the energy can flow freely. Sensuality can be supported by candles, soft ethnical music, aphrodisiac aromas, etc.

Sit face to face, touch your partner softly. You will wake up his or her neural endings. Stroke him softly but do not allow your hands to go into erogenous areas like penis or nipples. Move your hands only in close proximity to these areas. Prolong this state of excitation as long as you want (and you can stand).

Sit into the lap of each other. The so-called Yab-Yum position brings more of the intimacy and you can better tune-up and harmonize with each other.

Maintain eye contact while making love. With it, you will better feel and sense the infinite beauty of your connection.